As you walk in the room, many voices forcefully enter your mind, and you are left to deal with the negativity that has now flooded your brain.
Do not speak too much.
Is what you are wearing conservative enough?
Make sure you act interested, rather than interesting…. the list goes on and on.
Why is it that many women overthink their actions when in the presence of other women?
Although having “girlfriends” seems essential for a women’s mental health, so many women have a hard time finding authentic female friends.
When you are in a social setting that includes mostly women, do you find yourself in an uncomfortable position?
This brought some light to the LIB team, as we realized that MANY women struggle when around other women.
Why are you not getting along with other women?
If you are not getting along with other women, chances are, it is not them…it is you. Yes, this is a tough pill to swallow.
Having to look at the woman you see every day in the mirror and forcing yourself to have the tough conversations is crucial. If you are having a difficult time with multiple women, you might be the common denominator.
Are you social?
Are you asking about other women’s lives (and are actually interested)?
Are you genuine?
Do you want them to succeed?
Are you comparing yourself to them?
At the end of the day, if you want a friend… you must become a friend.
Build your Tribe
So many authors, podcasts, and thought leaders speak of the importance of a tribe, but what is it really?
Your tribe is the group of women behind you that fully support and believe in you. This being said, do you think that it might be important to choose this tribe wisely?
When building this tribe, it is vital to understand that proximity is key. Whoever you are spending your time with is who you are going to behave like.
If you are an entrepreneur and you are growing in your business, it might be beneficial to surround yourself with other successful women entrepreneurs.
Have the women in your corner that have been where you have, who have your back, and that have the ability to cheer you on.
The real problem
If you are finding yourself uncomfortable around other women, there is a good chance that you do not trust them.
Why would you not trust these women?
This is because you are walking around with years of hurt and pain that women have caused for you. Whether it was a girl calling you fat or a best friend stealing a boyfriend, there are too many stories that have been experienced.
The question is, have YOU ever talked poorly about another woman?
Were YOU ever maliciously mean?
Did YOU ever prejudge someone based on the way a woman looked?
How to heal
If you think about a person or a situation that has hurt you, and it triggers an emotional response… you are experiencing unforgiveness.
Why is forgiveness important (even if that person “does not deserve your forgiveness”)?
You deserve to have peace of mind. You deserve to be around women and to be able to relax and be yourself without worry of judgement.
You deserve happiness and you deserve to have the ability and power to move forward.
In order to heal, think about situations that hurt you and send love to those individuals. Keep in mind, this is a very hard and daunting task.
We fully understand that some of you have been through horrific situations and by no means does the Live in Boldness team validate anyones behavior, nor do we say that it was okay that you went through pain.
However, we do care about your mental wellbeing and want you to have the ability to move past the things that do not serve you. We want to give you access to knowledge that will free you.
Life is in the present
You are truly living when you do not consume yourself with the past and with the future.
You start to live when you live in the moment.
You live when you are authentically and unapologetically yourself.
You as a woman are incredibly unique. You hold so much power and love inside of yourself, and it is up to you to choose to live your life on your terms.
Are you going to have a persistent problem every time you are surrounded by other powerful women, or are you going to take it upon yourself to make the decision and take responsibility to work on yourself so that you may be free?
At the end of the day, you deserve to have amazing, incredible, powerful women in your corner cheering for you and believing in you, but you cannot find them if you are not looking for them.
Step out of your comfort zone and find your tribe!